Talking To My Cis Kid About The Trans Bathroom Issue
May12

Talking To My Cis Kid About The Trans Bathroom Issue

We talk about bathrooms a lot. We celebrate when we find a family bathroom. We cringe at the binary. We talk about North Carolina and Massachusetts. We talk about being kind and that some people aren’t. She tells me she wants family bathrooms at her school. She tells me she doesn’t want to line up as boys and girls. She gets mad at gendered language about toys at McDonalds. She tells me it doesn’t make any sense....

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She Doesn’t Call Me Mommy Anymore: On Nonbinary Trans Parenting and Mother’s Day
May09

She Doesn’t Call Me Mommy Anymore: On Nonbinary Trans Parenting and Mother’s Day

It wasn’t supposed to be like this—me, drinking coffee, her sitting too close all elbows and knees and bones and limbs. She had plans. Her plans included me taking her to a toy store, but that was mostly because she didn’t understand the holiday and when you’re 7, all holidays and special days and every day should end up at a toy store. I redirected that plan with a short list of examples of how people sometimes...

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More About Why Than What
Apr06

More About Why Than What

“Can you tell me a story about when you were a kid? A good one. With a lot of detail.” She’s been asking about who I was as a kid a lot lately. Maybe because every time she falls, I tell her a story of some time that I fell, or my brother broke his elbow, or my dad fell off his bike. She’s growing and falling a lot lately. She’s also cartwheeling through the house, because it just snowed in April. COOL...

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Besties
Feb06

Besties

 “I have a new best friend!” “You do?” “Yes!” “Who is it?” “MY NEW BEST FRIEND IS SNOW.” “Good one.” Share this:TweetPrintLike this:Like...

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Shared Custody Is Awful, Shared Custody Is Fine
Feb05

Shared Custody Is Awful, Shared Custody Is Fine

I try not to think a whole lot about living with shared custody. Because when I do, I break open. How can a person not be with their kid for 50% of the time? How can I possibly do this? And yet, I do. And if I really think about it, parents with 100% custody co-parenting in the same house and marriage really aren’t with their kids all the time either. They go out with friends at night or unapologetically want to. The kids go to...

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Do What Works Until It Doesn’t, Then Do Something Else
Jan20

Do What Works Until It Doesn’t, Then Do Something Else

Age six seems to be the age when it all falls apart. We’ve been here before, in glimpses. When she first learned how to stand up in her crib and the bedtime routine had to change. When she started dressing herself but had to change three times before school so mornings had to change. When she decided she’s part mermaid and refused to walk but instead slithers across the floor with both legs squeezed into one leg of her...

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She’s The Life Of The Party
Dec08

She’s The Life Of The Party

It’s Party Season these days. Well, for Roozle, it’s always Party Season because she has all the friends with all the birthdays in all the seasons, but it’s Holiday Party season this time. Bedtime is pushed back for Advent activities and having friends over and watching Elf. She has a tree in her room with stockings for her dolls. They celebrate Christmas every day. And on the days Roozle is with her Mama, I’m...

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It’s Not Perfect
Nov30

It’s Not Perfect

  It’s not perfect, but it’s mine. My practice. My getting better. My keeping going. I often don’t know what I’m doing or maybe even why. No one can answer why all the time. I want to answer why all the time. Life doesn’t work like that. Parenting, faith, love, loss. None of it works like that.  It’s not perfect, this showing up. This writing it down. But it’s enough. Enough for a...

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Tree Pose, Like Literally
Nov29

Tree Pose, Like Literally

  Christmas Tree day is the best day.  Share this:TweetPrintLike this:Like...

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Everything’s Like NBD At The Ocean
Nov28

Everything’s Like NBD At The Ocean

  She won’t take her new pajamas off. Perfect beach outfit, so NBD. Everything’s like NBD at the ocean. Because ocean.  Share this:TweetPrintLike this:Like...

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