I Can’t Give Her Everything She Wants, But I Can Teach Her To Be Okay With That
Nov16

I Can’t Give Her Everything She Wants, But I Can Teach Her To Be Okay With That

Do kids like it when parents say no to them? No. Because they really want to do the thing. Why else? Because they really want to say, do, go, and be how they want. And get what they want. Do kids like it better when parents say yes if they ask for something? Yes. Because they get to do the thing that they want to do. What happens when you ask for something and I say no? I say “okay!” Did you always respond like that? No. I...

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Her Style Is All Her Own, Her Style is #RoozleApproved
Oct24

Her Style Is All Her Own, Her Style is #RoozleApproved

This kid knows her style. From the first time I put her in baby overalls and she cried and pouted all day, she’s had a lot to communicate about style. This is a kid with fashion opinions. A kid who takes what you give her, once she has approved the choices, of course, and makes it all her own. So when Crazy 8 asked if she wanted to try out some of their clothes, I took one look at their site and replied YES PLEASE. Because this?...

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38 Things For My 38th Birthday
Sep16

38 Things For My 38th Birthday

It’s my birthday Every year for my birthday, I write some big list with the number of years old I am that year. It was an excellent way to have something to write on my birthday when I was blogging every day But I don’t blog every day anymore Because life got complicated as life tends to do And having it all on the internet felt like a bad choice Pro tip side note, don’t put it all on the internet, that’s...

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Double Jeopardy Applies Even When You’re 7
Aug17

Double Jeopardy Applies Even When You’re 7

Me: Remember, you can say anything to your doctor. You won’t get in trouble. This is like a free pass for saying stuff. Riley: Stupid stupid stupid. Can I put up my middle finger? Like Beyonce? Me: Um, no. Not like that. I mean, you can say whatever but I meant that she’s going to ask you questions and I want you to be honest. And whatever you tell her, I won’t like make a big deal out of or whatever. Riley: Okay but...

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Yes, I Drink Alcohol and Yes, I Sometimes Drink In Front Of My Kid
Jun22

Yes, I Drink Alcohol and Yes, I Sometimes Drink In Front Of My Kid

“Do you think parents should drink in front of their kids?” “No. No way. Definitely not.” “Really? Why not?” “Because the kids and little tiny babies might not know what it is and they will get it and drink beer.” “Oh, yeah, that would be super bad. But I drink in front of you. Is that okay?” “Yeah, that’s obviously fine since you drank beer like 1,467 times in...

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Talking To My Cis Kid About The Trans Bathroom Issue
May12

Talking To My Cis Kid About The Trans Bathroom Issue

We talk about bathrooms a lot. We celebrate when we find a family bathroom. We cringe at the binary. We talk about North Carolina and Massachusetts. We talk about being kind and that some people aren’t. She tells me she wants family bathrooms at her school. She tells me she doesn’t want to line up as boys and girls. She gets mad at gendered language about toys at McDonalds. She tells me it doesn’t make any sense....

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She Doesn’t Call Me Mommy Anymore: On Nonbinary Trans Parenting and Mother’s Day
May09

She Doesn’t Call Me Mommy Anymore: On Nonbinary Trans Parenting and Mother’s Day

It wasn’t supposed to be like this—me, drinking coffee, her sitting too close all elbows and knees and bones and limbs. She had plans. Her plans included me taking her to a toy store, but that was mostly because she didn’t understand the holiday and when you’re 7, all holidays and special days and every day should end up at a toy store. I redirected that plan with a short list of examples of how people sometimes...

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More About Why Than What
Apr06

More About Why Than What

“Can you tell me a story about when you were a kid? A good one. With a lot of detail.” She’s been asking about who I was as a kid a lot lately. Maybe because every time she falls, I tell her a story of some time that I fell, or my brother broke his elbow, or my dad fell off his bike. She’s growing and falling a lot lately. She’s also cartwheeling through the house, because it just snowed in April. COOL...

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Besties
Feb06

Besties

 “I have a new best friend!” “You do?” “Yes!” “Who is it?” “MY NEW BEST FRIEND IS SNOW.” “Good one.” Share this:TweetPrintLike this:Like...

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Shared Custody Is Awful, Shared Custody Is Fine
Feb05

Shared Custody Is Awful, Shared Custody Is Fine

I try not to think a whole lot about living with shared custody. Because when I do, I break open. How can a person not be with their kid for 50% of the time? How can I possibly do this? And yet, I do. And if I really think about it, parents with 100% custody co-parenting in the same house and marriage really aren’t with their kids all the time either. They go out with friends at night or unapologetically want to. The kids go to...

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