Does Coming Out Still Matter? (On


Does coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer still matter? Does this language mean anything anymore? Do we still need to tell our stories?

This Saturday is National Coming Out Day. The average age of coming out is now 16. It was 18-23 in the 80s. I came out in my early 20s. Before that, I didn’t have the language for who I was. I didn’t know anyone who was gay. I just thought something was wrong with me. I struggled with anxiety, depression, and thoughts of suicide. I fit perfectly in the statistics of LGBTQ youth.

It’s important to come out. Our stories matter. Our lives matter. To the LGBTQ community. To our allies. To our children.

I wrote about National Coming Out Day for SheKnows this week.

“I come out because others can’t. Because there are teenagers with parents who will kick them out if they do. Because in many countries, homosexuality is a punishable offense. I come out because I need to be a part of a community. I come out because I need allies to support me and the LGBTQ community in the fight for equality and safety. Because if you see me, then you may see others like me. Because we can’t do this alone.”

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Author: Casey

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