Being Gay Prepared Me To Be A Parent (on

I’m a planner. I like to be prepared. When we decided to start a family, I went into research mode. I was consumed by learning how it is we could start a family. Then when I (finally) got pregnant, I became consumed by research on how to actually be a parent. Let’s read all the books! Organize all the things! Make spreadsheets and schedules and budgets! The nesting instinct runs real strong around here.

But it wasn’t a spreadsheet that prepared me for parenting. It was so much my experience as an out lesbian that got me ready for this. Sometimes life breaks your heart. Just like parenting.

“I came out as a lesbian in college. By 30, I was married to a woman and pregnant with our first child. From finding community to recognizing that life is just hard sometimes, being a lesbian prepared me for parenthood more than I could’ve anticipated.”

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Author: Casey

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